Yesterday, we discussed conflict resolution. However, I am sure that there are people in your life, that you feel this is simply not possible. They are the sandpaper in your life – no matter what; they rub you the wrong way.
Let’s stop for a moment and think about the purpose of sandpaper. In woodworking, it takes something that has rough edges and sands it down to make it smooth. For the same reason, God has placed sandpaper people in your life. Their purpose is to sand down your rough edges, so that you can be molded and shaped into the purpose God has for you. When faced with a person with a sandpaper personality, we need to look at the good that can come from this interaction instead of trying to avoid any contact with this person. At one time in our lives, we have all been the sandpaper person to someone else.
God is the master craftsman, and therefore has many different tools in His toolbox that must work together to each one of us into the perfect tool for His plan for our lives. This is seen in Ephesians, “For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do” (Ephesians 2:10). God had a purpose and plan for each one of us before we were even born. We must make the choice to allow the other tools in the box shape us into what God wants for us. God has created us to be His masterpiece. In order for this to happen, we must allow the sandpaper to smooth the rough edges and the various other trials, tools, in our life to make us stronger.
Another thing to remember along the way; we do not want to go around pointing out the flaws in others’, when we cannot seem to recognize our own issues. We do not need to try and change anyone else. Our only responsibility is to allow God to change us.
It is best to keep looking at our relationships with God’s perspective. I will leave you with this quote; “He has placed you in their lives for a reason. He wants you to reveal some of His love, His patience, His mercy toward them. You may be the only face of Jesus they’ll ever see. God wants you to surprise them with His love in ways that only you can” (One Month to Live, 100). This makes me stop and look at life differently. I encourage you today to think of the people in your life that are more difficult to be around, how can you reach out to that person?
Questions to Consider:
- What tool, as described in this chapter, would you consider yourself and why?
- How often are you the first to point out someone else’s flaws? Spend time with God today asking Him to help you remove the issues in your own life instead of focusing on criticizing others.
- Think of a sandpaper person in your life. If you only had one month to live, how would your relationship change? What is keeping you from doing that today?